How to find peace of your mind in modern world

In my opinion this is the biggest problem we face as “modern” people. We might have flashy gadgets and shiny cool things, but in the end when it comes down to peace of mind we have nothing.

I know for me at least whenever I used to come home for the day; I used to always be 90% tense and 10% anxious for reasons I couldn’t understand. I had a house, family, friends and blessings I could never count. I just didn’t understand.

I was stuck in a never ending loop of distress and lack of peace.

So then how did I overcome that?

Well a couple years ago, I learnt a secret.

I was reading through some books when I read the most amazing quote:

Freedom from desire leads to inner peace.
– Lao Tse

This completely changed my beliefs and got me thinking.

Why there is so little peace in the “modern” world is because of too many worldly desires. So in essence the flashy gadgets and shiny cool things I thought were my positives were actually bringing me down.

This brought a revolution in my life.

I stopped worrying about always dressing good, I stopped caring too much about technology, I stopped worrying about having the best of everything.

I started detaching myself from as much as things as possible and my peace of mind right away started going up.

The main thing was that I started to slow my life down. I found through experience that the world was moving way too fast and that it was taking away my peace. There was always better technology; fashion kept on changing and the best things never lasted.

So the only way I could get my peace back was by slowing down and living at my pace.

You can have peace of mind too; you just have to put your mind to it.

 

Reference: Pickthebrain.com

Vindication …

Did … blow my mind ? Not at all, …  broke my mind honestly 😦

For Ayana

I made a video for Ayana, who is my Japanese friend.
I like this video a lot because it was my first time I made the video for someone.
I hope that she likes it.

2012.08.25 (Almost 1 year ago) — Re uploaded

Understanding Yourself Is Incredibly Valuable

Imagine a side of you that likes these things that you dislike. As soon as you imagine it, you might be tempted to make snap-judgments about this side, like how it’s a “poor excuse for a human being”, or “a monster”. This judgmental side is also, just a side of you – maybe it’s a side you tend to agree with more. But what about the other side? Why do they think as they do? Talk to it, try to understand it. It’s got a reason for liking what you dislike – and maybe it’s not so scary or bad as you thought.

And remember, neither side can control you. You can step outside both sides and talk to them. This allows you to question feelings of self-loathing or impulsive behavior or anything, really.

All in all, I can say that understanding yourself is incredibly valuable. Once you understand yourself, it’s like you’ve gained a friend, who you can talk with and share your concerns with. Don’t like your behavior? Try to work out a middle ground with the part of you who acts up. Or settle your differences however you like.

But fighting it isn’t always the best solution. Many parts of you can be troubled, causing them to act up, or have problems that they need your conscious help to solve – if you can help them out of their trouble, then they’ll start acting differently, as they see life in a new way.

Imagine if you had a child. If you held them to extremely high expectations, they might try to meet them, but would probably fall short a lot – not only are they fallible human beings, but they are their own person, too, and you may not know what’s best for them, and they need to discover it on their own. In constantly falling short of your expectations, that child might become discouraged or upset, or even angry and hurt at the way you’re treating them. After all, you aren’t giving them the space to be themselves, aren’t backing off and seeing what they are internally guided to. This is what it’s like to self-loathe.

You are your own child. Or, your inner child is your child. Semantics aside, you have a child-like side to you, and it’s important to pay attention to how you actually thrive and that you may not know everything there is to know about how to take care of yourself, and to let yourself grow. This knowledge, from my experience, is found in your feelings, but feelings are often wordless, and don’t make immediate sense. But if you listen, rather than command, if you open your mind to new possibilities, then you will start to understand your feelings. And hey, maybe you will start to appreciate who you actually are, and learn how to talk with yourself in a spirit of true friendship. So instead of chewing yourself out when you mess up, you’ll ask, “Are you ok? What’s wrong?”

Article adapted from the comments of Oliver Kaufman, founder of The World Within. Edited and posted by Matthew, a happy father and husband. 

Man’s search for meaning..

you are a person who has a why to live for can beat with almost any how. Whenever there was an opportunity for it, you had to give me a why-an aim- for my live, in order to strengthen me to bear the terrible how of my existence. 

Lots of people don’t know what i have been through..

Am I super lucky ?? Yessssss… kind of, but you don’t know how much effort did i put into making it happen.. 

Yes..

It is like anything..

If you are an actor or painter or writer,

you have to entertain yourself first

before you can even consider other people. 

If it does not excite you, it is hardly gonna excite anybody else.

-Noel Gallagher-

I always think that I am lonely even though lots of people are around me.

I try to do something new not to think of myself again..

Concord Child Care Center.

 

I decided to hang out with children every Friday.

I always wanted to help others,but I didn’t try to do anything before.

Because I was busy to take care of myself first, I couldn’t have enough time to look back on what I wanted to do.

However, I decided to do what I wanted recently.

I could not stay in myself anymore..I felt that needed to move forward .

I believe that when I do what I desire, I always smile and feel worthwhile and meaningful. 

Like this photo..

With a lovely dog.

Her name is Spunky

When I see her eyes , she always seems to be sad ..

she looks like she is missing someone..